Of all of the human experiences on offer during a lifetime, the loss of a loved one is among the most profound and challenging. Yet, amidst the depths of sorrow, many find solace in the belief that those we've lost continue to connect with us in various ways. This 2,000-word blog post explores the enduring bonds of love that transcend physical separation, offering comfort and hope to those grieving.

The Continuity of Love Beyond the Physical Realm

The concept of an ongoing connection with the departed has roots in various spiritual and cultural traditions worldwide. These beliefs often emphasize that while our loved ones may be gone from the physical world, the essence of their being and the love we shared remain.

The Spiritual Perspective

Many spiritual beliefs hold that death is not an end, but a transition to another form of existence. In this view, our loved ones continue to exist in a spiritual realm and can still connect with us in subtle, profound ways.

Cultural Interpretations

Different cultures interpret posthumous connections differently. For example, in some Eastern philosophies, ancestors play an active role in the lives of the living, offering guidance and protection. Western cultures, influenced by Christian beliefs, often view the deceased as guardian angels or spiritual guides.

Seeing butterflies is often a way that the bereaved feel their loved ones reach out across the distance.

Signs of Connection from the Other Side

Those who have experienced the loss of a loved one often report various signs that suggest ongoing connection. These signs are deeply personal and can manifest in numerous ways.

Dreams: A Common Meeting Ground

Dreams are one of the most common ways people report feeling connected to their departed loved ones. These dreams are often vivid and imbued with a sense of realness and profound emotion.

Physical Sensations

Some report physical sensations, such as feeling a touch, hearing a voice, or smelling a familiar scent associated with the deceased, suggesting their presence.

Symbolic Occurrences

Butterflies, birds, or other animals appearing at significant moments, or finding objects in unexpected places can be interpreted as signs from loved ones. While skeptics may attribute these to coincidence, for many, they are meaningful symbols of continued love.

Technological Phenomena

Unexplained phone calls, texts, or electronic glitches are sometimes reported as ways the deceased might communicate.

Personal Accounts of Connection

Personal stories and anecdotes often provide the most compelling evidence of ongoing connection. These narratives, rich with emotion and personal significance, offer comfort and hope to those grieving.

Shared Experiences

Many find solace in sharing their experiences with others, discovering that such occurrences are more common than they initially thought.

The Role of Mediums and Psychics

Some seek out mediums or psychics to bridge the gap between the physical and spiritual realms. While skepticism exists, many find these sessions provide closure and reassurance.

Scientific Perspectives on After-Death Communication

The scientific community remains largely skeptical of after-death communication, attributing such experiences to psychological factors like grief, memory, and wish fulfillment. However, research in fields like parapsychology continues to explore these phenomena with an open mind.

The Power of the Mind in Grief

Psychologists suggest that these experiences can be part of the brain's coping mechanism, a way to process loss and maintain a connection with the deceased.

Studies on After-Death Communication

While conclusive scientific evidence is lacking, some studies have explored the therapeutic effects of these experiences on the bereaved, often finding them helpful in the grieving process.

The Therapeutic Effect of Believing in Connection

Regardless of one's beliefs about the reality of these connections, their therapeutic effect is undeniable for many. They can offer comfort, aid in the healing process, and provide a sense of peace.

Healing Through Continued Bonds

The theory of 'Continued Bonds' in grief therapy suggests that maintaining a connection with the deceased can be a healthy part of the grieving process, contradicting older notions that one must 'let go' to heal.

The Role of Rituals and Memorials

Rituals, memorials, and creating dedicated spaces for the deceased can facilitate a sense of ongoing connection and provide a tangible way to honor and remember them.

Cultural and Religious Rituals for Connection

Cultures and religions around the world have rituals to maintain bonds with the deceased. From the Mexican 'Dia de los Muertos' to the Japanese 'Obon Festival', these traditions provide structured ways to celebrate and remember those who have passed.

Personal Rituals and Practices

Creating personal rituals, such as lighting candles, visiting gravesites, or celebrating anniversaries, can also help in maintaining a bond.

Challenges and Criticisms

While many find comfort in these beliefs, they are not without challenges and criticisms. Skepticism, fear of stigma, and the potential for psychological dependency are issues that some people face.

Balancing Grief and Hope

It's important to balance the comfort these beliefs provide with the reality of moving forward in life. Relying too heavily on signs and messages can hinder the natural process of

Connecting with a departed loved one doesn’t always require a psychic medium. In fact, with a little guidance, intention, and openness, you can cultivate this connection in the comfort of your own home.

First of all, I found myself getting in my own way a lot when I was first trying to contact my brother on the other side. I kept thinking I would be able to “hear” him with my ears, or even “see” him with my eyes.

But the only sense necessary for us to make contact is our imagination. I know what you’re thinking: “So it’s just in my imagination?” And the answer is, simply: YES.

Think about it: whatever and wherever THE OTHER SIDE is, it’s right here. It’s another dimension that exists right alongside ours. At least, that’s what I believe. And just like you can be right where you are, reading this right now, you can also imagine yourself in another place, doing something completely different. Right?

We’ve been programmed to think that messages from the other side have to be tangible, and I’m not saying they’re not! But spirit uses what it has to communicate with us, and depending on who you ask, that’s going to be something like our intuition.

When I am calm, quiet, and meditative, my mind gets still. And when my mind is still, I can sometimes feel or think things that don’t seem to originate with me. Sure there’s also tons of straight up garbage that flows through, but when I meditate with an intention to connect to the other side, and I take steps to make that more likely (see below) I find I am able to very easily slip into that “place” where contact is effortless.

I’ve got two tutorials for you below: one is to set up a deal with your loved one on the other side: they’ll bring you signs, and you’ll recognize them. The second is about making direct contact, which takes a bit more focus and practice. Note that before my brother died, I had been a meditator for eight years, using the Vipassana or Insight method. So I think that helped me a lot when it came to stilling my mind so I can make contact with my brother on the other side.

Inspired by the words of Laura Lynne Jackson in her book, "Signs: The Secret Language of the Universe," here’s a comprehensive tutorial to help you set intentions and recognize the signs from your loved ones on the other side.

1. Setting Intentions for Recognizing Signs:

Step 1: Find a Quiet Space – Choose a place where you feel at peace and won’t be disturbed. This could be a cozy corner of your home, a garden, or even a serene park.

Step 2: Deep Breathing – Start with a few minutes of deep breathing to calm your mind and body. Feel yourself becoming grounded and present.

Step 3: Be Specific with Your Intent – Think of a specific sign you wish to receive from your loved one. It could be a specific animal, a particular song, a certain number, or even a coin.

Step 4: Meditation & Visualization – Close your eyes and visualize your loved one. Ask them, in your mind, to show you the sign you’ve chosen. Feel their presence and the love they have for you.

Step 5: Trust and Let Go – After setting your intention, release any expectations. Trust that you’ll receive the sign when the time is right.

Don’t forget to thank your loved one when you see a sign! They are eager to make contact, and they will absolutely feel your gratitude when it happens.

And here’s a method for inducing the kind of contact a medium might make.

2. Making Direct Contact With a Deceased Loved One:

Step 1: Create the Atmosphere – Light some candles or incense, dim the lights, and play soft, evocative music that relaxes your mind. I think it’s best to try this very early in the morning, just as the sun is coming up, or in the early evening, just as the sun is setting. Both of these settings provide a sense of transition or openness, I think.

Step 2: Grounding Exercise – Sit comfortably and take deep breaths. Feel the connection between your body and the Earth. This will help you center your energy. I like thinking of space all around me on all sides, even beneath me deep down into the earth. I see myself as surrounded by open, limitless space, all the way out into the distant stars.

Step 3: State Your Prayer of Intention – Say aloud or in your mind: "Dear gods, guides, and friends on the other side: anyone dedicated to the light, please collaborate with me. I wish to send and receive messages from _______ with the highest intentions for love, light, and growth."

Step 4: Call Out to Your Loved One – Clearly state their name. Picture them in your mind. I say to my brother, “Hey, do you want to hang out with me?” Then I wait for a few moments until I feel a difference in my state of mind. A slight lift, or a shift. That means he’s joined me, energetically.

Step 5: Ask Your Questions – While I think it’s fine to ask questions like, “Who was there to greet you when you crossed over?” or “What are you doing over there?” I think the best use of your time with your loved one on the other side is discussing what you’re going through. They want to help you with your grief, but also with your life! You can tap into the deep bond that you have and ask them to be a collaborator in your life. Not sure what to do about a relationship? Feeling anxiety and stress about something? Ask for help! That’s what they want.

Step 6: Listen for Immediate Answers – If you get a response before you even finish formulating your question, it’s a good sign you’ve established a connection. My brother interrupts me a lot. That’s because as soon as I think of what I want to say, it’s already been communicated. That’s just how it works on the other side. Your intention to connect means you’re connected!

You probably won’t “hear” their voice, but it will often seem like you will just get thoughts that don’t feel like your own. My brother “talks” to me in a sort of dry, humorous tone. That’s how I know it’s him. But I don’t hear his voice in my ears like I might someone in the other room. Instead, it’s telepathic communication. At first I didn’t trust it because I thought, “it’s just me making it up in my own head!” But remember: that is the venue for our connection — our imagination! Trust that and keep an open heart.

Step 7: Conclude and Express Gratitude – After your session, thank your loved one and any other spiritual guides for their messages and presence. It’s essential to acknowledge and show gratitude for their effort and energy.

Final Note: Remember, the key is to approach this with an open heart and mind. There will be times when you might not receive a sign or message, and that’s okay. The spiritual realm operates beyond our understanding of time and space. Keep practicing, stay patient, and trust the journey. With time and dedication, you’ll find yourself forming deeper connections and understanding the language of the universe better.

Let me know if you try either of these methods and if you’re able to make contact with someone who has died. And keep in mind, this is a process and a practice that you’ll get better at over time. I believe in you!