Eternal Love: How Our Loved Ones Continue to Connect After Passing

Of all of the human experiences on offer during a lifetime, the loss of a loved one is among the most profound and challenging. Yet, amidst the depths of sorrow, many find solace in the belief that those we've lost continue to connect with us in various ways. This 2,000-word blog post explores the enduring bonds of love that transcend physical separation, offering comfort and hope to those grieving.

The Continuity of Love Beyond the Physical Realm

The concept of an ongoing connection with the departed has roots in various spiritual and cultural traditions worldwide. These beliefs often emphasize that while our loved ones may be gone from the physical world, the essence of their being and the love we shared remain.

The Spiritual Perspective

Many spiritual beliefs hold that death is not an end, but a transition to another form of existence. In this view, our loved ones continue to exist in a spiritual realm and can still connect with us in subtle, profound ways.

Cultural Interpretations

Different cultures interpret posthumous connections differently. For example, in some Eastern philosophies, ancestors play an active role in the lives of the living, offering guidance and protection. Western cultures, influenced by Christian beliefs, often view the deceased as guardian angels or spiritual guides.

Seeing butterflies is often a way that the bereaved feel their loved ones reach out across the distance.

Signs of Connection from the Other Side

Those who have experienced the loss of a loved one often report various signs that suggest ongoing connection. These signs are deeply personal and can manifest in numerous ways.

Dreams: A Common Meeting Ground

Dreams are one of the most common ways people report feeling connected to their departed loved ones. These dreams are often vivid and imbued with a sense of realness and profound emotion.

Physical Sensations

Some report physical sensations, such as feeling a touch, hearing a voice, or smelling a familiar scent associated with the deceased, suggesting their presence.

Symbolic Occurrences

Butterflies, birds, or other animals appearing at significant moments, or finding objects in unexpected places can be interpreted as signs from loved ones. While skeptics may attribute these to coincidence, for many, they are meaningful symbols of continued love.

Technological Phenomena

Unexplained phone calls, texts, or electronic glitches are sometimes reported as ways the deceased might communicate.

Personal Accounts of Connection

Personal stories and anecdotes often provide the most compelling evidence of ongoing connection. These narratives, rich with emotion and personal significance, offer comfort and hope to those grieving.

Shared Experiences

Many find solace in sharing their experiences with others, discovering that such occurrences are more common than they initially thought.

The Role of Mediums and Psychics

Some seek out mediums or psychics to bridge the gap between the physical and spiritual realms. While skepticism exists, many find these sessions provide closure and reassurance.

Scientific Perspectives on After-Death Communication

The scientific community remains largely skeptical of after-death communication, attributing such experiences to psychological factors like grief, memory, and wish fulfillment. However, research in fields like parapsychology continues to explore these phenomena with an open mind.

The Power of the Mind in Grief

Psychologists suggest that these experiences can be part of the brain's coping mechanism, a way to process loss and maintain a connection with the deceased.

Studies on After-Death Communication

While conclusive scientific evidence is lacking, some studies have explored the therapeutic effects of these experiences on the bereaved, often finding them helpful in the grieving process.

The Therapeutic Effect of Believing in Connection

Regardless of one's beliefs about the reality of these connections, their therapeutic effect is undeniable for many. They can offer comfort, aid in the healing process, and provide a sense of peace.

Healing Through Continued Bonds

The theory of 'Continued Bonds' in grief therapy suggests that maintaining a connection with the deceased can be a healthy part of the grieving process, contradicting older notions that one must 'let go' to heal.

The Role of Rituals and Memorials

Rituals, memorials, and creating dedicated spaces for the deceased can facilitate a sense of ongoing connection and provide a tangible way to honor and remember them.

Cultural and Religious Rituals for Connection

Cultures and religions around the world have rituals to maintain bonds with the deceased. From the Mexican 'Dia de los Muertos' to the Japanese 'Obon Festival', these traditions provide structured ways to celebrate and remember those who have passed.

Personal Rituals and Practices

Creating personal rituals, such as lighting candles, visiting gravesites, or celebrating anniversaries, can also help in maintaining a bond.

Challenges and Criticisms

While many find comfort in these beliefs, they are not without challenges and criticisms. Skepticism, fear of stigma, and the potential for psychological dependency are issues that some people face.

Balancing Grief and Hope

It's important to balance the comfort these beliefs provide with the reality of moving forward in life. Relying too heavily on signs and messages can hinder the natural process of

Can't Afford a Medium? You Don't Need a Psychic to Contact Your Loved Ones on the Other Side

Connecting with a departed loved one doesn’t always require a psychic medium. In fact, with a little guidance, intention, and openness, you can cultivate this connection in the comfort of your own home.

First of all, I found myself getting in my own way a lot when I was first trying to contact my brother on the other side. I kept thinking I would be able to “hear” him with my ears, or even “see” him with my eyes.

But the only sense necessary for us to make contact is our imagination. I know what you’re thinking: “So it’s just in my imagination?” And the answer is, simply: YES.

Think about it: whatever and wherever THE OTHER SIDE is, it’s right here. It’s another dimension that exists right alongside ours. At least, that’s what I believe. And just like you can be right where you are, reading this right now, you can also imagine yourself in another place, doing something completely different. Right?

We’ve been programmed to think that messages from the other side have to be tangible, and I’m not saying they’re not! But spirit uses what it has to communicate with us, and depending on who you ask, that’s going to be something like our intuition.

When I am calm, quiet, and meditative, my mind gets still. And when my mind is still, I can sometimes feel or think things that don’t seem to originate with me. Sure there’s also tons of straight up garbage that flows through, but when I meditate with an intention to connect to the other side, and I take steps to make that more likely (see below) I find I am able to very easily slip into that “place” where contact is effortless.

I’ve got two tutorials for you below: one is to set up a deal with your loved one on the other side: they’ll bring you signs, and you’ll recognize them. The second is about making direct contact, which takes a bit more focus and practice. Note that before my brother died, I had been a meditator for eight years, using the Vipassana or Insight method. So I think that helped me a lot when it came to stilling my mind so I can make contact with my brother on the other side.

Inspired by the words of Laura Lynne Jackson in her book, "Signs: The Secret Language of the Universe," here’s a comprehensive tutorial to help you set intentions and recognize the signs from your loved ones on the other side.

1. Setting Intentions for Recognizing Signs:

Step 1: Find a Quiet Space – Choose a place where you feel at peace and won’t be disturbed. This could be a cozy corner of your home, a garden, or even a serene park.

Step 2: Deep Breathing – Start with a few minutes of deep breathing to calm your mind and body. Feel yourself becoming grounded and present.

Step 3: Be Specific with Your Intent – Think of a specific sign you wish to receive from your loved one. It could be a specific animal, a particular song, a certain number, or even a coin.

Step 4: Meditation & Visualization – Close your eyes and visualize your loved one. Ask them, in your mind, to show you the sign you’ve chosen. Feel their presence and the love they have for you.

Step 5: Trust and Let Go – After setting your intention, release any expectations. Trust that you’ll receive the sign when the time is right.

Don’t forget to thank your loved one when you see a sign! They are eager to make contact, and they will absolutely feel your gratitude when it happens.

And here’s a method for inducing the kind of contact a medium might make.

2. Making Direct Contact With a Deceased Loved One:

Step 1: Create the Atmosphere – Light some candles or incense, dim the lights, and play soft, evocative music that relaxes your mind. I think it’s best to try this very early in the morning, just as the sun is coming up, or in the early evening, just as the sun is setting. Both of these settings provide a sense of transition or openness, I think.

Step 2: Grounding Exercise – Sit comfortably and take deep breaths. Feel the connection between your body and the Earth. This will help you center your energy. I like thinking of space all around me on all sides, even beneath me deep down into the earth. I see myself as surrounded by open, limitless space, all the way out into the distant stars.

Step 3: State Your Prayer of Intention – Say aloud or in your mind: "Dear gods, guides, and friends on the other side: anyone dedicated to the light, please collaborate with me. I wish to send and receive messages from _______ with the highest intentions for love, light, and growth."

Step 4: Call Out to Your Loved One – Clearly state their name. Picture them in your mind. I say to my brother, “Hey, do you want to hang out with me?” Then I wait for a few moments until I feel a difference in my state of mind. A slight lift, or a shift. That means he’s joined me, energetically.

Step 5: Ask Your Questions – While I think it’s fine to ask questions like, “Who was there to greet you when you crossed over?” or “What are you doing over there?” I think the best use of your time with your loved one on the other side is discussing what you’re going through. They want to help you with your grief, but also with your life! You can tap into the deep bond that you have and ask them to be a collaborator in your life. Not sure what to do about a relationship? Feeling anxiety and stress about something? Ask for help! That’s what they want.

Step 6: Listen for Immediate Answers – If you get a response before you even finish formulating your question, it’s a good sign you’ve established a connection. My brother interrupts me a lot. That’s because as soon as I think of what I want to say, it’s already been communicated. That’s just how it works on the other side. Your intention to connect means you’re connected!

You probably won’t “hear” their voice, but it will often seem like you will just get thoughts that don’t feel like your own. My brother “talks” to me in a sort of dry, humorous tone. That’s how I know it’s him. But I don’t hear his voice in my ears like I might someone in the other room. Instead, it’s telepathic communication. At first I didn’t trust it because I thought, “it’s just me making it up in my own head!” But remember: that is the venue for our connection — our imagination! Trust that and keep an open heart.

Step 7: Conclude and Express Gratitude – After your session, thank your loved one and any other spiritual guides for their messages and presence. It’s essential to acknowledge and show gratitude for their effort and energy.

Final Note: Remember, the key is to approach this with an open heart and mind. There will be times when you might not receive a sign or message, and that’s okay. The spiritual realm operates beyond our understanding of time and space. Keep practicing, stay patient, and trust the journey. With time and dedication, you’ll find yourself forming deeper connections and understanding the language of the universe better.

Let me know if you try either of these methods and if you’re able to make contact with someone who has died. And keep in mind, this is a process and a practice that you’ll get better at over time. I believe in you!

Adam Barry's Goodbye Hello: When the Paranormal Meets Grief

Grief, as you know, can take you to places you never thought you'd venture, both metaphorically and sometimes quite literally. In the world of the paranormal, where mysteries about the afterlife and connections between our world and the next captivate so many, rarely do we find a spotlight that also shines on the raw and real emotion of grief. Until now.

Recently, news broke of an upcoming book by Adam Berry, paranormal investigator extraordinaire, and a man deeply entrenched in the mysteries of the unknown. The book, Goodbye Hello: Processing Grief and Understanding Death Through the Paranormal, seems set to bridge a vital gap, intertwining the threads of grief with the allure of the paranormal.

For those of us who've mourned, the thought of contacting loved ones or receiving some form of sign from them isn't unfamiliar. It’s the yearning for a connection, an assurance, or maybe just a way to process the pain. Now, Berry, who's familiar to many as the host of ‘Kindred Spirits’ and a former member of the legendary ‘Ghost Hunters’ team, is diving deep into this intersection of grief and the supernatural.

From the publisher's synopsis, this book aims to answer burning questions that many of us secretly harbor. What really happens after death? Why do some spirits linger? Is there a tangible connection between our dreams and the afterlife? These aren’t just fascinating queries for the paranormal enthusiast, they’re also profoundly important for those grappling with loss.

What makes Berry's perspective so riveting is his extensive experience in the field. I recently came across an interview with him on Bloody Disgusting where he dives into his journey, from winning 'Ghost Hunters Academy' to forming a dynamic investigative duo with Amy Bruni in 'Kindred Spirits'. Their strong bond, one that resonates on and off screen, highlights how interpersonal relationships can deeply influence paranormal investigations.

Now, when it comes to paranormal investigations, many often label them as mere "thrill-seeking" endeavors. But this upcoming book paints a different picture. It hints at a deeper, healing essence, a spiritual exploration of grief and the afterlife, grounded in tangible experiences and evidence.

The paranormal community is vast, and there are many paths one can walk. But seldom do we find individuals who not only seek to understand the mysteries of the beyond but also look at how these mysteries can provide solace to the grieving heart.

When I first stumbled upon the announcement for Goodbye Hello, it was through an Instagram post from none other than Tyler Henry. If you're unaware of him, Tyler is the prodigious medium fronting Netflix’s ‘Life After Death’. I can't quite articulate the solace that show provided me, especially in the tender weeks that followed my brother's passing. Every episode was like a balm to my ravaged soul. Tyler's singular talent is not just about communicating with the departed; it's about healing. It's about extending a gentle hand to the grieving, offering a chance at closure and a reassurance that death is not the end. To see such a figure endorsing Adam Berry’s new book was nothing short of a glowing testimonial.

The realm of the paranormal, often relegated to late-night TV and spooky campfire tales, hides a deeper, more therapeutic potential than many give it credit for. At its core, it's about connections; bridges between our world and what lies beyond, between the living and the departed. It's these connections that provide an avenue for healing, especially in the wake of traumatic grief that accompanies the sudden loss of a loved one.

Enter Laura Lynn Jackson, another powerhouse in the field. A renowned psychic medium, she's assisted countless individuals in navigating their grief. Through her readings, she offers a window into the beyond, often delivering messages that bring profound closure to bereaved families. It's a thing of beauty, watching her at work. Witnessing a family's anguish morph into acceptance, gratitude, even joy – it’s a testament to the healing potential the paranormal holds.

Both Laura and Tyler have demystified the esoteric, making it accessible and relatable. They've shown that mediums are not just conduits for the deceased, but also guides for the living, helping us understand our losses and teaching us to find meaning in them.

As someone who’s been on a personal journey of grief, I can attest to the power of mediums. Their work transcends mere communication; it's an education. From them, I've learned not just about the other side, but also about how to reach out on my own. They teach us that every one of us has an innate ability to connect, to feel those who've left us. It's not about seeing spirits in every shadow, but about understanding the signs, the messages they send, and the sense of presence they project.

It’s been awhile since I got really excited about a new grief book, because they all seem to be the same. But I’m very much looking forward to Adam Berry's Goodbye Hello. If Tyler Henry's nod is any indication, this book will be another step in that beautiful dance between our world and the next, helping souls on both sides find peace.

It’s refreshing, and frankly a relief, to see someone like Adam Berry, with a vast platform and influence, delve into the nuanced world of grief through a paranormal lens. It holds the promise of providing readers not just with captivating tales of the unknown, but with insights that may ease the journey of grief. If the paranormal can provide even a flicker of understanding, comfort, or healing to those mourning, then books like Goodbye Hello are more than just reads - they're lifelines.

Adam’s book can be pre-ordered here, and comes out on the 24th of September.

Reading the Beyond: A Roundup of Books on NDEs

Treading the boundaries between life and what comes after has long been a source of curiosity and wonder for many of us. With an insatiable hunger to understand the mysteries of existence, I embarked on a literary journey, seeking knowledge from those who had briefly touched the realms beyond life's edge. With each page turned, I felt my skepticism soften and my belief in the afterlife strengthened. These books, with their tales of Near-Death Experiences (NDEs), played a pivotal role in reshaping my perspective:

1. "Proof of Heaven: A Neurosurgeon's Journey into the Afterlife" by Dr. Eben Alexander

Summary: This profound memoir tells of Dr. Eben Alexander, a neurosurgeon previously skeptical about life beyond death. Stricken by bacterial meningitis and falling into a coma, he found himself venturing into an ethereal dimension, encountering magnificent landscapes, angelic beings, and profound cosmic insights.

My Reflection: Alexander's narrative challenged the boundaries of my belief. His description of the afterlife, filled with intricate tapestries of light and sound, resonated with ancient mystical principles I've encountered in my spiritual readings. As a neurosurgeon, he looked for logical, scientific explanations for his journey, but none fit. This was particularly compelling for me. If someone so entrenched in the world of empirical evidence could be swayed, perhaps there's more to the afterlife than I initially thought.

2. "Life After Life: The Investigation of a Phenomenon - Survival of Bodily Death" by Dr. Raymond Moody

Summary: Dr. Moody's pioneering exploration of NDEs presents over 100 accounts of those who've come back from the brink. Their stories encompass feelings of peace, out-of-body experiences, and encounters with deceased loved ones.

My Reflection: What struck me most about "Life After Life" was the universality of these experiences. While each story was unique, underlying themes echoed ancient spiritual teachings. The recurring sensation of boundless love and unity reminded me of age-old religious texts and spiritual discourses. Moody's analytical yet compassionate examination made me realize that these experiences weren't anomalies but perhaps glimpses into a grander cosmic design.

3. "Dying to Be Me: My Journey from Cancer, to Near Death, to True Healing" by Anita Moorjani

I love Anita Moorjani and watch and read everything I can find.

Summary: Anita Moorjani narrates her battle with cancer and her subsequent NDE. During her journey, she comprehends her intrinsic worth, the potency of unconditional love, and the interconnectedness of all life.

My Reflection: This is my absolute favorite on this list. I couldn’t put this book down, and I recommend it to anyone who will listen. Moorjani's account moved me deeply. Her revelations about self-worth and the realization that we are part of a greater whole aligned with my beliefs in spiritual interconnectedness. Her transformation, both spiritual and physical (her rapid cancer recovery), bolstered my belief that there is an underlying spiritual reality that our earthly experiences only hint at.

4. "The Map of Heaven: How Science, Religion, and Ordinary People Are Proving the Afterlife" by Dr. Eben Alexander and Ptolemy Tompkins

Summary: A follow-up to "Proof of Heaven," this book delves into historical and contemporary accounts of NDEs. Alexander and Tompkins weave together science, spirituality, and testimonies to create a compelling tapestry of the afterlife.

My Reflection: This book was a revelation in terms of bridging the gap between science and spirituality. Reading about ancient civilizations' interpretations of the afterlife and seeing the parallels with modern NDEs was enlightening. This amalgamation of perspectives bolstered my belief in the continuity of the soul and the universality of afterlife experiences.

5. "Near-Death Experiences as Evidence of God and Heaven: A Brief Introduction" by J. Steve Miller

Summary: Miller tackles NDEs from an apologetic perspective, analyzing their implications for belief in God and heaven. Drawing from numerous firsthand accounts, he argues for the credibility of NDEs as evidence of the divine.

My Reflection: As someone who constantly grapples with faith and reason, this book was a guiding light. Miller's thoughtful analysis, intertwined with spiritual underpinnings, reinforced my belief in the eternal nature of our souls. The accounts he presents, coupled with his astute observations, make a compelling case for the spiritual realms that await us.

These books, each in its unique way, were instrumental in my spiritual journey, broadening my understanding of life, death, and the intricate dance between them. Through these tales, I've come to embrace the possibility of a vast, loving universe that cradles us in life, death, and perhaps, even beyond.

Training the Spirit: Exploring Induced After-Death Communication Techniques

Death, I found out in the worst way possible on the worst day of my life, is the one and only inevitable truth of life. While the passing of a loved one often results in profound grief, a significant number of people —including me!—report experiencing what they believe to be communications from those who have crossed over. These experiences, known as after-death communications (ADC), provide solace, closure, and even spiritual awakening for many.

As the demand for understanding and connecting with the spirit realm grows, both researchers and therapists are diving deep into the world of induced after-death communication. This article aims to shed light on this emergent area of interest.

Disclaimer: While this article discusses therapeutic techniques related to induced after-death communication, I'm not a therapist and cannot provide medical advice. Always consult with a professional when seeking therapeutic interventions.

Understanding After-Death Communication (ADC)

At its core, after-death communication represents spontaneous and usually unexpected encounters or experiences that convey a sense of being contacted or communicated with by someone who has passed away. These can manifest in various ways, including:

Dreams:

Often the most reported form of ADC, where the deceased appear vividly and often convey messages of love, reassurance, or guidance.

Symbols:

Certain recurring symbols, like specific animals, numbers, or natural phenomena, can be perceived as after death communication symbols from the departed.

Sensations:

A sudden fragrance that relates to the deceased, a fleeting touch, or even a familiar voice.

While these experiences have been anecdotally reported for centuries, it's only in recent years that the field of psychology has begun to seriously consider the implications and applications of ADCs in therapeutic settings.

Induced After-Death Communication (IADC): Bridging the Gap

Induced after-death communication is a newer therapeutic technique, drawing comparisons to Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), a treatment primarily utilized for trauma and PTSD. IADC aims to help individuals in grief access healing visions or communications with the deceased.

In an IADC session, under the guidance of a trained therapist, individuals are led through a series of visualizations and bilateral stimulation (similar to EMDR) to help facilitate potential communication with the deceased. Many report profound, vivid experiences that assist in the healing process.

After-Death Communication Research: The Science Behind the Spirit

Scientific validation for such phenomena remains a topic of debate, but strides have been made in understanding ADCs' psychological and therapeutic implications. Studies have looked into various facets:

Frequency & Forms:

A majority of bereaved individuals report some form of after-death communication. The nature of these varies, but dreams and symbolic encounters are common.

Psychological Effects:

Many who experience ADCs report reduced symptoms of grief, depression, and anxiety. The therapeutic potential of these experiences is increasingly being recognized.

Neurological Underpinnings:

Some theories propose that ADCs, particularly induced ones, might be linked to specific brain activity or neural pathways. While this doesn't negate the authenticity of the experience for the individual, it provides a possible explanation for why some people are more receptive to ADCs.

Navigating the Journey: Stories and Experiences

After death communication stories are both poignant and diverse. From a mother sensing the reassuring presence of her departed child to a widower receiving messages in dreams, these tales echo the timeless human yearning to bridge the gap between life and death.

Books on the subject, such as "Hello From Heaven!" by Bill and Judy Guggenheim, offer a comprehensive look into hundreds of firsthand ADC accounts, adding layers of depth to our understanding.

Dreams: A Direct Line?

After death communication dreams stand out as particularly vivid and emotionally charged. The clarity of these dreams, combined with the often profound messages they carry, make them a subject of both fascination and research.

Quotes and Reflections: What Happens After Death?

"What happens after death?" is a question that has intrigued humanity for millennia. Philosophers, spiritual leaders, and thinkers have weighed in:

"Death is not extinguishing the light; it is only putting out the lamp because the dawn has come." - Rabindranath Tagore

"The boundaries between life and death are at best shadowy and vague. Who shall say where one ends and the other begins?" - Edgar Allan Poe

Such reflections offer a glimpse into the vast tapestry of beliefs and perceptions surrounding death and the possibility of continued existence or communication.

The Spiritual Test: How Do We Know?

The after-death communication test is, for many, a deeply personal one. While some look for undeniable proof, others lean into their experiences with faith and openness. It's essential to approach these experiences with an open heart but also a discerning mind, recognizing the profound impact of grief and our innate desire for connection.

In Closing: My Journey Beyond the Veil

I first heard of Induced After-Death Communication just a few weeks before the first anniversary of my brother’s sudden and tragic death. I devoured everything I could find about it, and was disappointed to learn there wasn’t a therapist in my area who could conduct a session.

Now, what I did next isn’t something I am even remotely qualified to do, nor is it something I am qualified to suggest anyone else do: I tried it on myself.

I had done EMDR and bilateral stimulation (tapping) in the past in a therapeutic setting, so I read everything I could find to prepare, then I set out on a little adventure.

Just like is suggested in the book, Induced After-Death Communication, written by its founder Alan Botkin, I searched for the most upsetting aspect of my sadness. It wasn’t difficult to uncover, and I began tapping either thigh, over and over, as I plumbed the depths of this core sadness. When I felt the sadness alleviating, after about 20 minutes of pretty uncomfortable ugly crying, I settled down and closed my eyes.

And immediately, I felt my brother.

I didn’t see him, and I didn’t “hear” him, but I felt him and I received a message from him. It wasn’t like words that were written or spoken, but rather a full concept that occurred to me all at once:

I’m okay. You’re okay. Everything is okay.

I had already settled down quite a bit by then, but whatever sadness or. tension remained in my body completely left at that point, and, as I was to find out over the next days and weeks, so did the worst of my grief.

I don’t know if it was a combination of the anniversary and my desire to turn a page in my bereavement journey, or if IADC, as it’s called, is a miracle straight from the divine, but ever since that day I have not felt the ragged, raw, tugging depths of grief. Instead, I feel momentary sadness and a little pull of regret every once in awhile. I think about my brother every day. EVERY. DAY. But the pain has been replaced with a simple and neutral knowing.

It’s okay. I’m okay.

What a miracle.

Journey Beyond the Light: A Deep Dive Into Near-Death Experiences (Including My Top 5)

The idea of an afterlife wasn’t something I was comfortable even considering, much less discussing, before my brother died.

But then everything changed in a terrible instant.

Humans have built entire religions, philosophies, and cultures around what might exist beyond this life. However, even though (or perhaps because) I was raised in a religious home, skepticism more often outweighed belief for me. That was the standpoint I held the day before my brother died, viewing the afterlife as a comforting myth rather than a potential reality. But a journey through the corridors of the Near Death Experience Research Foundation (NDERF) changed everything for me.

Introduction to Near-Death Experiences

Before delving into the personal accounts that transformed my perspective, it's essential to understand what near-death experiences (NDEs) are. Often occurring when someone is on the brink of death, NDEs are profound personal experiences associated with death or impending death. These can encompass a variety of sensations including detaching from the body, moving through a tunnel, or being immersed in light.

NDEs have been reported across cultures, with threads of similarity tying them together, but also unique aspects influenced by individual beliefs, cultural backgrounds, and personal experiences.

The Significance of the Greyson Scale

To understand the depth and authenticity of NDEs, Dr. Bruce Greyson developed the Greyson Scale. This 16-item questionnaire is meticulously designed to gauge the intensity of a near-death experience. From out-of-body experiences to the clarity of consciousness, this scale is the yardstick by which many NDE stories are measured. In the vast ocean of NDE accounts, the Greyson Scale serves as an invaluable compass.

The 16 components of the Greyson Scale are as follows:

Altered Time Perception: Time, for many who experience NDEs, seems to distort—either accelerating or decelerating.

Accelerated Thought Processes: Individuals have described their thoughts racing at unprecedented speeds.

Life Review: Scenes from one's past play out vividly, often evoking deep emotions or new perspectives.

Sudden Insight: An overwhelming understanding or revelation about life, relationships, or the universe at large.

Peaceful Sensations: An enveloping sensation of serenity and calmness that contrasts starkly with the often traumatic events leading to the NDE.

Elation: Intense feelings of happiness or joy, transcending any prior earthly experience.

Universal Harmony: A profound sense of unity or interconnectedness with the universe, often described as feeling 'at one' with everything.

Blinding Brilliance: Many recount an encounter with an intensely bright light, often associated with feelings of warmth and love.

Heightened Senses: Sensory experiences become magnified or more vivid than one has ever known.

Extrasensory Awareness: A newfound perception allowing individuals to sense events or emotions from afar, reminiscent of ESP.

Foresight: Some individuals report viewing scenes or events that seem to predict the future.

Out-of-Body Experience: A pronounced feeling of detachment from the physical body, often accompanied by a vantage point from outside oneself.

Unearthly Realms: Venturing into spaces or dimensions that feel vastly different from our world, filled with unique colors, terrains, or atmospheres.

Mystical Encounters: Meetings with entities or presences that feel divine or otherworldly, or even hearing voices that don't seem to have a discernible source.

Visions of the Departed: Many describe reunions with deceased loved ones or even encounters with figures from religious texts.

The Final Threshold: This might be a river, a fence, or some other boundary indicating a point beyond which there is no return.

Each of these facets is ranked on a scale ranging from 0 to 2 based on the depth of the experience. A cumulative score is determined, and typically, a score of 7 or above suggests a genuine NDE. Nonetheless, the scale and the very concept of NDEs continue to spark debates and intrigue, as the mysteries of life and death remain largely uncharted.

Stories that Resonate

These five stories are the ones that changed my orientation to the afterlife from disinterested doubt to a calm acceptance. I’ve added small synopses below them, but I encourage you to clickthrough to each story’s NDERF entry for the full picture.

1. Doug C.

Doug's account is not just a tale of the afterlife; it's a philosophical exploration. The car accident that almost claimed his life instead opened the doors to an alternate reality. In this place, there was no concept of time, only infinite consciousness. Every thought had the power to manifest. Doug’s return to the living world was with a renewed belief in interconnectedness. His narrative compels us to ponder our existence and the universe's infinite mysteries.

2. Sandi T.

Sandi's ethereal journey paints a picture of an afterlife rich in emotion, color, and sound. The overwhelming sense of unconditional love she felt raises questions about the nature of love in our earthly lives. How does our human experience of love compare with this divine, boundless emotion? Sandi’s story encourages a deeper exploration of love, both in life and beyond.

3. April W.

April's NDE stands out. Triggered not by a brush with death but by deep meditation, she voyaged to a place where she felt an indescribable oneness with the universe. This account beckons readers to look within and understand the power of human consciousness. It's a testament to the idea that you don't always need external events to transcend; sometimes, the portal lies within.

4. Roger C.

Encountering higher beings, receiving divine wisdom, and understanding one's earthly purpose is a lot to process. Roger's experience was a deep dive into the soul, an intense reflection on life and its myriad challenges. His narrative serves as a beacon of hope, reminding us that struggles are temporary, and a greater cosmic understanding awaits.

5. Mohammad Z.

Mohammad's narrative transcends religious boundaries. His experience, devoid of religious symbols, focused on love, acceptance, and knowledge. It's a testament to the idea that the divine might be more universal than our earthly religions suggest. This story serves as a bridge, encouraging interfaith dialogue and mutual respect.

Common Themes and Unique Insights

Each of these accounts, while distinct, carries certain commonalities: the feeling of unconditional love, the sense of oneness, and an enhanced consciousness. But they also bear unique elements, shaped by personal experiences and cultural backgrounds. These stories are both a mirror and a window—reflecting universal human experiences while offering a peek into the vast, unknown expanse of the afterlife.

What’s also noteworthy is the impact these NDEs had on the individuals. Almost unanimously, those who've had these experiences return with a decreased fear of death, an increased sense of purpose, and a deeper spiritual understanding. Their testimonies challenge our materialistic worldviews, urging us to consider the spiritual and metaphysical aspects of existence.

Personal Reflections on Faith and the Afterlife

Before embarking on this journey through NDERF, my stance on the afterlife was one of skepticism. I had no need to dig any deeper, and that kept me pretty firmly — though lazily — in the non-believer camp. But these stories, rich in detail and emotion, have swayed my beliefs. They’ve opened a portal in me to another part of myself, a part that I believe is my soul, who has all of the answers and can rest easily and simply in the truth of my eternal nature. I am (as are you) a magnificent being. And when I came here to earth, to do something, though I’m not quite sure, that’s when I died. And I’ll be born again into my true home when I leave this body and return to The Source.

My brother’s death knocked the skepticism out of me. I just couldn’t mount anymore defenses, and suddenly I had to know: where did he go? It didn’t matter to me anymore what other people would think. I jumped with both feet into the deep end of spirituality and mysticism, because why wouldn’t I? I would do anything for my baby brother, and that includes rearranging my beliefs.

Love, it turns out, can command me to believe.

Today, I find myself a believer. The stories of near-death experiences have become a lighthouse in my spiritual journey, guiding me towards a more profound understanding of life, death, and everything in between.

The NDERF platform, combined with the Greyson Scale's validation, provides a treasure trove of insights into the afterlife. While we may never have definitive answers until we cross that bridge ourselves, these beautiful near-death experiences offer hope, understanding, and a sense of wonder about the great cosmic dance of life and death.

The Silver Screen's Glimpse of the Beyond: Movies on NDEs

Film, with its unique ability to delve into the human psyche and visualize the intangible, has often portrayed the concepts of Near Death Experiences (NDEs) and afterlife. These portrayals, ranging from deeply spiritual to abstractly philosophical, provide solace, raise questions, and offer profound insights into the mysteries of life and death.

For those dealing with grief, these cinematic journeys can serve as balm, presenting a hopeful and often heartwarming look at the vast expanse of existence beyond our physical lives.

Let's dive into some movie (and epic streaming TV) experiences that touch upon NDEs and interpretations of the afterlife, shedding light on the enigma that is life after death.

1. "The OA" (Netflix)

This mind-bending series, though not strictly adhering to traditional definitions of NDEs, provides a thought-provoking exploration of other dimensions and the connections between lives and realities. Prairie, the protagonist, experiences multiple near-death experiences, and each time, she's drawn into an alternate dimension, giving her unique abilities in her current life.

My Take: What "The OA" does remarkably well is blend spiritual concepts with the sci-fi genre, challenging the viewer's understanding of existence. It emphasizes the interconnectedness of lives across dimensions, offering solace to those grieving: if multiple dimensions exist, then perhaps our loved ones aren't truly gone, but merely existing on a different plane.

2. "What Dreams May Come"

In this visually stunning film, Chris Nielsen, played by Robin Williams, dies and finds himself in a heaven that looks like his wife's paintings. However, when he discovers his wife has committed suicide and is trapped in hell, he embarks on a journey to save her.

My Take: This film's portrayal of the afterlife is both heartwarming and heartbreaking. It's a testament to the enduring power of love, which can transcend even the boundaries of life and death, and offers a message of hope and redemption to those grieving.

3. "Heaven is for Real"

Based on a true story, this movie revolves around a four-year-old boy who claims to have visited heaven during a near-death experience. He describes it in vivid detail, mentioning deceased relatives he never met.

My Take: The pure, unfiltered perceptions of a child provide a reassuring perspective on the afterlife. The film speaks to the innate human hope and belief in a peaceful and loving existence beyond this life. I am somewhat suspicious of the phenomenon of this story in general, since it serves a decidedly religious agenda, but that’s not a criticism of the child’s story itself.

4. "Defending Your Life"

This comedic take on the afterlife presents a limbo where people must defend their actions on Earth in a celestial court. Depending on the outcome, they either move on to the next stage of existence or are sent back to Earth to learn more.

My Take: Through humor, this film offers a refreshing perspective on life's trials and tribulations, suggesting they are but learning experiences for the soul. It's an uplifting reminder that our journeys are filled with purpose. And honestly, I’ll watch anything with Meryl Streep.

5. "Flatliners" (original and remake)

This film involves a group of medical students who purposefully induce near-death experiences to catch a glimpse of the afterlife. However, they're haunted by visions upon resuscitation.

My Take: This is the classic NDE movie, and was remade in 2017 with Eliot Page. Although there's a thriller element, at its core, the film delves deep into the psyche, questioning the boundaries of life and death. It illustrates that there's so much about existence that remains unknown, fostering a sense of wonder and respect for the mysteries of life.

6. "Astral City: A Spiritual Journey"

Based on the best-selling book by medium Chico Xavier, this Brazilian film chronicles the journey of a doctor who wakes up in the spiritual realm after his death, exploring his own spiritual evolution.

My Take: This film is a deep dive into spiritual teachings, emphasizing the continuity of life after death and the soul's eternal journey. It's an affirmation of the boundless love and growth that await us beyond this realm. Definitely a trip, but a beautiful one.

In conclusion, cinema, with its powerful storytelling, serves as a beacon for many navigating the tumultuous seas of grief. While every portrayal might not align with personal beliefs, they all underscore a singular, hopeful message: death is not an end but a transformation, a gateway into new realms of existence and understanding. Whether through traditional NDEs or imaginative depictions of the afterlife, these films emphasize the eternal nature of the soul and the boundless possibilities of existence. For those mourning, this offers a comforting hand, gently guiding them towards acceptance and peace. I continue to watch and seek out new films that capture the essence of what I’m searching for: a spiritual explanation for everything in my life, including death.

Echoes of Eternity: Quotes from NDE Survivors

In my quest for understanding the enigma of existence, few experiences pierce the veil between life and what lies beyond as profoundly as Near-Death Experiences (NDEs). They're tantalizing glimpses into the unknown, moments where the very fabric of life is stretched thin, revealing shimmering insights into a realm just beyond our reach. This ethereal landscape has been described by countless NDE survivors whose eloquent words often resonate with a timeless wisdom.

For me, these quotes are more than mere words. They serve as beacons, illuminating my path as I navigate life's complexities, seeking solace, understanding, and perhaps a hint of the eternal. This article brings together some poignant reflections from those who have momentarily brushed against the other side, returning with messages that echo with the promise of eternity.

1. Dr. Eben Alexander

"The universe as I experienced it in my coma is … the same one that both Einstein and Jesus were speaking of."

Reflection: Dr. Alexander's experience is notable not only for its profound spiritual impact but also for its reconciliation of science and faith. As a neurosurgeon, his grounding in the empirical is juxtaposed against this ethereal voyage, suggesting that perhaps the divide between science and spirituality is more permeable than we think.

2. Anita Moorjani

"I understood that I owed it to myself, to everyone I met, and to life itself to always be an expression of my own unique essence."

Reflection: Moorjani’s transformative NDE journey is a testament to the intrinsic value of every individual. In recognizing our inherent worth and the interconnectedness of life, she underscores the sacred duty we all bear to live authentically.

3. Colton Burpo

"Heaven is for real, and you're gonna like it!"

Reflection: Young Colton's innocent proclamation, following his NDE, captures the innate wonder and joy of the eternal realms. His childlike certainty offers a heartwarming reassurance that the great unknown is, in fact, a place of warmth and welcome.

4. Dannion Brinkley

"I saw that we are spirits, and that spirits create the physical body."

Reflection: Brinkley's NDE narratives have consistently emphasized the primacy of our spiritual nature. His understanding aligns with age-old spiritual teachings, reiterating that our earthly existence is but a fleeting chapter in the soul's eternal journey.

5. Howard Storm

"Every person is my brother or sister. However, many people remain unaware of this truth and remain distant from their siblings."

Reflection: Storm's transformation from a self-proclaimed atheist to a believer in the interconnectedness of all beings is a poignant reminder of our shared humanity. His insights drive home the point that our differences are superficial, overshadowed by our shared cosmic origins.

6. Dr. Mary Neal

"My friends' and family's love pulled me back from death, and the memory of God's love gave me the desire to return to life."

Reflection: Dr. Neal's experience emphasizes the indomitable power of love. In her journey beyond, she was not only enveloped by divine love but was also tethered to life by the love of those she left behind. Her tale underscores the intertwining of earthly and divine affection.

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7. Mellen-Thomas Benedict

"I knew that at the center of the universe dwelt the Great Spirit. And I knew that this central point of the universe is what some have called the 'Collective Consciousness'."

Reflection: Benedict's insights into the cosmology of existence emphasize the oneness of creation. His understanding of the collective consciousness aligns with the spiritual teachings of many traditions, reaffirming the interconnected tapestry of life.

8. Betty Eadie

"If I had stayed with my friends who were lost, I might have missed the beauty of the spirit world. But my love for them was strong enough that I could leave them for a moment and return to them."

Reflection: Eadie’s experience is a touching testament to the enduring bonds of love. While the splendor of the afterlife beckoned, her earthly attachments still held sway, emphasizing that true love transcends realms.

9. Dr. George Ritchie

"I was permitted to see the past and future of the human race, shown in a kind of holographic display."

Reflection: Dr. Ritchie's experience offers a humbling perspective on time's cyclical nature. By witnessing the grand dance of humanity across epochs, he underscores the eternal rhythm of birth, death, and rebirth.

10. Raymond Moody

"People describe floating out of their bodies, meeting spiritual beings, a bright light... a panoramic life review."

Reflection: As the pioneering researcher on NDEs, Dr. Moody’s encapsulation of common experiences isn’t an NDE experience, but provides a template that countless other accounts have resonated with. It hints at universal truths awaiting us all.

The eloquence of these NDE survivors and their profound insights into life, death, and the very nature of existence serves as a reminder: perhaps death is not an end, but a doorway. Through it, we might find not oblivion, but a reality teeming with life, love, and the promise of eternity. These quotes stand as echoes from that realm, nudging us to look beyond, to believe, and to hope for the wonders that await.

Cross-Cultural Glimpses of the Afterlife: NDEs from Around the World

Death, a concept as old as time itself, has continually piqued our collective curiosity. Near-Death Experiences (NDEs), fleeting moments when individuals seem to traverse the boundary between life and the beyond, have generated both marvel and debate. While many accounts exhibit striking parallels, the influence of cultural, religious, and personal narratives is evident.

NDEs from Around the World: A Deeper Dive

Thanks to resources like the NDERF (Near Death Experience Research Foundation) website, we have access to a plethora of firsthand NDE accounts from varied cultural backgrounds:

India:

Indian NDEs often feature Buddhist or Hindu deities.

The common aspect of a journey through a tunnel, culminating in an encounter with a deity from Hindu mythology, showcases the impact of religious and cultural upbringing on NDEs. These experiences are grounded in the Hindu concept of karma and reincarnation.

Nigeria:

It is common in this culture to experience the enfolding of the newly deceased by radiant ancestors, underscoring the Yoruba community's emphasis on ancestral bonds and heritage.

Japan:

Like many NDEs, Japanese near-death experiences feature ethereal locations in nature, including gardens.

There are often serene gardens filled with cherry blossoms mirroring traditional Japanese aesthetics, symbolizing peace and unity with the universe.

Scandinavia:

There are accounts echoing Viking beliefs, where the experiencer perceives grand mead halls reminiscent of Valhalla, the majestic resting place of warriors.

Middle East:

NDEs from this region often resonate with Islamic beliefs. One account narrates an individual walking in a vast garden, which parallels descriptions of Jannah, the Islamic concept of paradise.

South America:

Among the indigenous communities, NDEs sometimes draw from nature-centric beliefs, with experiences set in lush rainforests or atop mighty mountains.

These tales highlight how our cultural lenses influence our perception of profound experiences.

Historical and Religious Contexts of NDEs

Diving into ancient civilizations offers us a glimpse into how our ancestors perceived the afterlife:

Ancient Egypt:

The renowned 'Book of the Dead' describes the soul's journey after death, with elements that mirror modern NDEs. For instance, the act of weighing the heart against a feather to determine one's afterlife bears semblance to the life review common in NDEs.

Biblical References to NDEs:

The Biblical tale of Lazarus, who was resurrected by Jesus, doesn't offer an NDE in the modern sense. However, it does emphasize the idea of life after death, which forms the crux of many religious NDE narratives.

Buddhist References to NDEs:

The Tibetan 'Bardo Thodol' or 'Book of Liberation through Understanding in the Between' often called the Tibetan Book of the Dead, delineates the experiences of the soul between death and rebirth. Its descriptions of luminous beings and peaceful realms bear striking parallels to NDEs.

The Universal Core of NDEs: Greyson Scale Explored

Dr. Bruce Greyson's innovative Greyson Scale underscores the universal elements present in NDEs. These include feelings of profound peace, out-of-body experiences, encounters with brilliant lights, and meetings with deceased loved ones. The fact that ancient texts and scriptures, spanning different cultures and eras, exhibit these themes accentuates the universality of NDEs.

NDEs Across Religions

Many religious doctrines around the world contain narratives that resemble NDEs:

Christianity:

The story of Apostle Paul's vision on the road to Damascus has shades of NDEs, particularly the bright light and the voice he hears.

Hinduism:

The 'Garuda Purana' describes the soul's journey after death, replete with radiant realms and spiritual entities.

Islam:

The Isra and Mi'raj narratives, which describe Prophet Muhammad's night journey and ascent to the heavens, encompass elements akin to NDEs.

Why Do NDEs Vary Across Cultures?

One theory posits that our brains, being pattern-seeking organs, interpret NDEs using familiar symbols and narratives. Thus, while the foundational experience remains consistent, the specifics might vary based on one's upbringing and beliefs.

The Healing Power of NDEs

For those grieving, NDEs offer solace. They suggest a realm where departed souls find peace, thereby providing comfort to the bereaved. By hinting at the impermanence of physical death and the soul's eternity, NDEs can potentially transform raw grief into acceptance.

NDEs, with their rich tapestry of cultural, religious, and personal narratives, provide a captivating insight into the afterlife. While debates persist, the solace and spiritual understanding these experiences afford countless individuals are undeniable. In our diverse world, the shared essence of NDEs serves as a testament to our collective human journey and destiny.

Beyond the Veil: How Loved Ones Reach Out

After-Death Communication

In the quiet moments following the loss of a loved one, an emotional chasm often forms, echoing with a silence that's deafening. But what if that silence was not as complete as we thought? What if those who've passed on were still trying to communicate with us? Across cultures, the notion of after-death communication—receiving signs from the afterlife and messages from the other side—has been a source of comfort and curiosity for many. This idea is not just born from age-old folklore and rituals, but from modern experiences and testimonials shared by people around the globe.

SIGNS by Laura-Lynn Jackson:

Among the contemporary proponents of this idea is Laura-Lynn Jackson, a psychic medium whose book, "SIGNS: The Secret Language of the Universe," delves deep into this phenomenon. In her poignant narrative, Jackson beautifully weaves her personal experiences with heartwarming stories of others who have received signs from their departed loved ones. The book does more than just share stories; it offers readers a lens to view the world differently, to see it as a place where the boundaries between life and death are permeable. One review notably praises the book as “a bridge to understanding the subtle, yet powerful, connections that bind us to the other side.”

Examples of Signs from "SIGNS":

Jackson relays numerous experiences in her book. One particularly touching account is of a mother who lost her son. She kept finding pennies in the most unexpected places following his passing. While this might seem coincidental to some, to her, it was her son's way of saying he was still around, still watching over her. Another story speaks of a grieving individual who constantly dreamed of receiving text messages from their deceased loved one. These dreams, vivid and real, became a source of solace in their grieving process.

Signs in Pop Culture:

The idea of receiving signs isn't limited to books or personal testimonials; it permeates popular culture. Celebrities, often with their lives laid bare, have occasionally shared their own mysterious experiences. For instance, the famed Paul McCartney once shared that after asking for a sign from his late mother, he dreamt of her. She told him everything would be alright, inspiring his song "Let It Be."

Netflix's LIFE AFTER DEATH:

Expanding on this concept, Netflix's documentary series "LIFE AFTER DEATH" dedicates an entire episode to the theme of signs. The episode interviews several individuals, each describing their unique experiences with the other side. One poignant example is of a widow who, while visiting her husband's grave, would often find the same type of butterfly fluttering nearby. She took it as a sign from him, a reassurance of his enduring presence.

How to Ask Your Departed Loved Ones for a Sign:

If you feel drawn to this concept and yearn for a connection with someone you've lost, consider reaching out for a sign. Here's a simple guide:

1. Find a Quiet Space:

Solitude and silence often make it easier to sense subtle signs.

2. Speak Aloud or Mentally:

Directly address your loved one. Express your feelings, your wishes, and explicitly ask for a sign if you're comfortable. On the other side, we communicate telepathically, so this is the best way to send your message.

3. Be Open and Patient:

Signs can be subtle or might not come immediately. It could be a familiar scent, a song on the radio, a dream, or even a feeling.

4. Keep a Journal:

Document your experiences. Over time, patterns may emerge, reinforcing your belief in the signs you're receiving.

5. Trust Yourself:

Skepticism is natural, but trust in your feelings and experiences. The comfort and connection are what truly matter.

In conclusion, the universe is filled with mysteries that go beyond our comprehension. Whether you're a believer in after-death communication or just intrigued by the possibilities, it's undeniable that countless individuals find solace and meaning in these ethereal experiences. As Laura-Lynn Jackson beautifully expresses in her book, there is a language that exists beyond words, one that communicates through signs, offering comfort, love, and the enduring bond that exists beyond the veil.